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It all began around February 2011. Lady A later admitted to her husband/wife that she had had a plan: she really wanted her husband to be feminised. He was completely unaware of the longer term plan but now enjoys it too. Why did she want us to have a different relationship, a female led relationship with a feminised husband? Two reasons really. Firstly control. A man in a dress, high heels and make up will act more feminine, more gentle and is more submissive. Lady A does like to be in control. A man will be more willing to do housework and serve her in feminine clothes and let her be in control. Secondly, a point rarely made in the feminisation blogs, it is an incredible turn on for both.
Lady A absolutely does not want to turn her husband into a real girl, just a feminised man. She wants a sexual relationship with her partner but she just wants him feminised and submissive and to follow her instructions. Our relationship has nothing to do with those blogs where women turn their men into actual females with hormones and surgery. Oh no, this is not just more realistic but we believe how most couples would live in the real world.
What was in it for her husband? He found that the feel and flow of female clothes were much nicer than male clothes. Silky nighties were much better than cotton pyjama bottoms. A soft cotton skirt felt so much freer around his (her) legs compared to a pair of trousers which were restrictive. It was a great turn on, in particular the humiliation of it all. Being called a naughty girl and to be disciplined was highly erotic. Which takes us to the final point. For him it was to be able to escape the social expectations and responsibilities of a man. The excitement of breaking social norms is highly erotic and exciting.
So she laid her trap and picked her moment. One evening at the height of passion a small request… sort of. Close to his bursting point she whispered that she had a naughty idea. “What?” was his breathless and short response.
“Oh I’m not sure” she mumbled.
“Please, just tell me” he said a little frustrated as she’d stopped.
“No it’s ok, forget it”
“Please just tell me what you wanted.”
“Would you wear something for me?”
“What?” he said yet again, his frustration mounting a little with his increasing desire.
“Please don’t be annoyed but it would be nice if you wore something naughty while we made love. It would be exciting.”
He waited to hear what Lady A wanted, “Wear what?”
“Knickers?” she whispered nervously. He thought for a few seconds. “Knickers?” He thought a little more. “Why not. OK.”
Lady A, then just plain A, rushed out and came back with a pair of black g string knickers. He put them on, they didn’t really fit or hold anything in but the love making came to its desired conclusion with a whole lot more excitement.
Rule 1, link encouraged feminisation to sex.
So Lady A had made the first move and things had now changed. Her husband had worn an item of women’s clothing for the first time and she had associated it with great sex. The stage was set for the next stage, to move things up a notch. They continued to use knickers for a couple of times in their love making before Lady A ‘couldn’t find’ the black g string and introduced a pair of lighter coloured knickers but this time with a frill, again at an advanced stage of lovemaking. There was a protest but she pointed out that there was no real difference they were knickers and he’d worn them before and he should put them on. So put them on, he thought ok it’s not that different. Over the next few days she introduced increasingly feminine knickers into the love making and finally she produced a pair with a frilly lace attached skirt which largely covered the knicker. They looked like a small skirt. She had got him to use knickers every time they made love and got him into something resembling a very short skirt ready for the next stage. This would be a big jump and she had to be careful.
“Oh it looks like you’re wearing a little skirt in those knickers” she said jokingly as the first part of her move
“Yes I suppose so” he replied.
“How do you feel? They look really nice actually.”
“Yes they feel nice. Nice material, it feels naughty like I shouldn’t be wearing them”
“Yes that’s the excitement isn’t it?” she added “It looks like you’re wearing a skirt. It’s nice. I really enjoy seeing you in them. It’s quite exciting.”
“Ok” he replied, “it does feel quite nice”
It’s very important to bring your man into the discussion and to admit he enjoys the experience. Once on the feminisation path men will see the benefits and start to enjoy it.
Rule 2, get him to agree that wearing feminine clothing is good.
So far he thinks it’s just a game they play in the bedroom and adds some spice. Lady A said no more but the plan was ready for the next stage. Part way through their next love making she asked him if he wanted to do something very exciting. “Of course” he said.
She went off and came back with a little black sports skirt with an elastic waistband.
“I’m not wearing a skirt” he protested.
“It’s no different to those knickers with the frill and you enjoyed them. They are in the wash so you could wear these instead and there’s no need to take them off or slide the front to one side. It makes a lot of sense”.
Men relate well to logic and when feminising your man you need to use logic. Lady A understood this. They were the same as the knickers but without the hassle. After some hesitation he agreed as the logic was there so he slipped them on. Once they finished lovemaking he took them straight off as he had with the knickers. However she had got him into a skirt, even if it was just for a short time. Success; and now for the next stage. To get him to wear a skirt around the house. The next big step.
The trap was set again. She produced the skirt again as before and it was a little easier to get him to wear it during love making than previously. However this time once they had finished she stopped him removing them and insisted they cuddle first. Lady A kept him in a hug for some minutes to get him used to wearing a skirt outside sex. Then she suggested they have a cup of tea in bed. Could he go and make it for her and bring it up. She threw him his tee shirt but suggested he keep the skirt on as no one would see and since he had been wearing it he might as well keep it on to go downstairs.
“Why not it’s just an item of clothing. What’s the problem?”
He did exactly that, albeit reluctantly. he brought the tea up. He’s served her for the first time in a skirt. This was going well. So onto the next stage, buying him his own skirt together. It’s important to get your man involved in buying his female clothes.
They went to a charity shop, which is always a good place, to look for some clothes for her, she said. She found a very short pleated black skirt and a short frilly grey cotton summer skirt.
“What do you think of these?” she asked her husband. “Feel them. Nice aren’t they?”
“Yes very nice although I’m not sure they are your style” he replied.
“What do you think of the material. It’s not fair is it? Woman get to wear much nicer material don’t you think? Feel it. Do you like it?”
He fell for it and agreed it was very sexy material and felt lovely.
“Good. They are not for me they are for you. We had some great fun playing our new games, it was exciting don’t you think? It would be nice to carry on playing. I’m going to buy them for you for our game”. And she did as he looked on a little shocked
When they got home she insisted he try them on. He was embarrassed but she asked so nicely,. “Oh please, it would be so nice for our ‘game’.
So of course he did as she asked.
“Oh you need to take off your boxers and put on some knickers”. She went and got a pair and made him changed into them.
“Ok let’s go up and play” she said with a broad smile. “But let’s have a coffee first. Can you make it for me please?”
She now had him wearing skirts and knickers around the home and making drinks for her. This was was going very well. Ready for the next stage.
Another trip to the charity shop. This time she found a blouse. Now she had him wearing skirts, knickers and a blouse. It was still associated with sex so another stage was planned. Nightwear.
Lady A’s husband usually wore pyjama bottoms and a tee shirt to bed. At the same time as the move to skirts, she started her campaign to get rid of the pyjama bottoms. She told him how un-sexy pyjama bottoms were and how old fashioned they were. It’s important to appeal to a man’s thought process. Compare his pyjamas to an old man’s clothes. Believe me, that will work. “Let’s just throw them away. They are what an old man would wear.”
That of course hit the spot and he agreed. So now he just wore a tee shirt with no bottoms. Not bad but only half way there. Small steps, now to get rid of the tee shirt. Lady A used the same tactic about how un-sexy it was to wear tee-shirts to bed. He had to stop wearing tee-shirts and he went to bed naked. This was good. It’s ok to have your man naked but you really want him feminised.
So one cold night she offered one of her larger satin nighties in a dark mauve colour. After explaining that there was little difference to a skirt and he wore skirts with no problem so he could put it on for now. He did as it was cold. She had him in nighties. It is important to praise him and say how lovely he looked and how attractive he was. Lady A did this regularly and let him know just how sexy it was. And it was for her.
Another shopping trip. They ‘just happened’ to be wandering around a clothes shop when Lady A found a pink slik nightie with thin shoulder straps. Again she asked him to feel it and agree how nice it was. She then pointed out how his current nightie was a little tight and anyway it was hers. “Lets get you this one” she said.
He obviously objected. However Lady a applied logic again. “Well you wear a nightie every night already we should just get you one that fits you and is yours.”
She bought the pink one in pink and explained that he was wearing a nightie to bed so a ‘slight change’ in colour was no problem, was it?”
Now she had him wearing nighties to bed every night. She made it clear every night that it was very sexy and attractive for her.
So onto the next stage. One evening she asked him to wear the skirt and blouse for the evening. Please just for me she said. “A build up for our early night in bed.” She said with a big smile.
He agreed and had to agree that it felt nice after she kept asking him. She wanted to look through mail order clothes and came to the dresses. She enjoyed asking him what styles he liked. “So if you had to choose one what one would you choose?” she asked innocently.
He picked a short red skater style dress. “Ok let’s order that one for you” she said.
“I’m not wearing a dress, what on earth are of thinking” he protested.
“Well you’re wearing a skirt and you enjoy it and you wear a pink nightie to bed so this isn’t any different. Please just for me” and with that she ordered it.
The next article describes how we ramped up the feminisation with Lady A’s husband becoming her girl.
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